I commented to a  friend of mine the other day that things are getting “easier” as the kids get older.

I think what I really meant is that things are easier now that G is in Kindergarten.

I don’t mean that in a mean way, I’m just saying the boy takes a lot of energy out of me.

And.  If he comes to this space and reads that some day I’m guessing he will just nod his head in agreement. Because, he knows it too.  Even now.

I think things are also getting easier because I’m being easier on myself.

I got caught in this mind trap that if Tim wasn’t here and “OH WOE IS ME I HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING ON MY OWN!!!” I couldn’t do it.

Well, that’s just not true.  We faired pretty well while he was gone for 3 days this week (although happy to have him home!)

It also helps that this guy is pretty darn independent and is a good kid and listener and helper.  (for the most part, we all have our days.. yes?)

And sometimes, I just have to remember that he IS still a kid.  It must be hard to be the oldest, seriously.  I wouldn’t know of course, being the “baby” AND only girl. I had it easy, you know. ;-P  But truly, we put a lot on him sometimes.  But it’s mostly because we know he can handle it.  And he does.

And then K well, she kinda runs the show around here.  I’m trying to get her to at least say “please” and “thank you” when she is commanding things and bossing people around.

It’s going only so-so.

And she FINALLY put some poo in the pot the other day, but only because she was running around the house half “nekkid”.  And she hasn’t done it since.

(note to self: leave her half “nekkid”)

I was hoping she would be mostly potty-trained by her birthday which is in less than two weeks, how’d that happen but no such luck.

Oh well.

So, this is us. NOW.

Linking up with a friend…

Essence of Now


  1. So glad to hear the 3 days of flying solo went well. Of course you can do it. It’s like when we become mothers, we’re hardwired to ‘do it;, even when it’s hard.

    Have a lovely weekend, my friend. xo

  2. Those pictures are so cute.

    It’s really easy to fall into that “woe is me, I have to do it all on my own” trap. I do it at least a few times a year when Jdaddy goes hunting or whatever.

  3. Sometimes I feel that “how am I going to do this on my own?!” thing when my husband is out of town. But, that never really helps matters, does it? It’s much easier to just put my nose to the grindstone and hope everyone comes out alive on the other side. :) Your kids are so cute. I do definitely understand the tough days and tough attitudes, though! My 3yo is oh, so bossy. We’re working on it. :/

  4. It does get easier as the kids get older…so much easier. My oldest is/was the one that takes a good lot of energy and he knows it too :)

  5. I am pretty happy that my kids are growing up. (though sometimes I think they are growing up way too fast.)
    But it does get easier, so much easier! I totally get that.

  6. I know what you are saying. About all of it. I get it.
    Lovely post. :)

  7. I can’t believe she’s almost three. I keep thinking having older kids won’t be much easier because we’ll have homework and soccer practice and PTA meetings and older kid issues, but at least we won’t have to worry about poop. Ha! Hope y’all have an excellent weekend. It’s going to be 96 here tomorrow. Ugh. Where is fall already???

  8. It does get easier. Lots more running around to activities when they are older, but it’s been easier since I haven’t had to carry someone or have diapers with me or worry that someone will just run out in the street.

  9. See, I don’t think that it really gets easier… it just gets different.

  10. I think we are all way too hard on ourselves. Things get so much easier when we just lighten up a little bit.

  11. I hear you on the pottu training business! My son was done by the time he turned 2 and A is working on it but I am praying is done by 3! Yikes! :)

  12. I’m the same with trying to get our little miss bossy pants to say please and thank you. It does get “easier” in some aspects when the kids get older… Love the pics. Just beautiful.

  13. My big ol’ bossypants girl is a faithful ‘thank’-er today, if it gives you any hope. She’s still bossy and I have learned to use it to my advantage when I am alert. I figure that’s how God made her and it will come in useful when she’s grown. I hope.

  14. Such a lovely now! The pictures are great, Elaine! Enjoy this time. And things getting easier.

  15. “She put some poo in the pot”…hahaha!!!
    My mom had 5 of us and she said that each stage lessened older challenges but opened the door for new ones.
    Kids. Who knew? LOL
    It is hard having them to ourselves. I practically wait by the door for my husband to come home from a trip. Do you think that looks desperate??

  16. I had the hardest time getting my youngest potty trained but finally it happened so I know it will for K too (eventually).