A few weeks ago I was coming out of the gym and thinking about my husband for some reason. I realized there was a perfectly good Saturday night open on our calendar for us to have a date night. So I sent a text to our regular babysitter to see if she was available.
And so last Saturday night Tim and I went to dinner (I had a Living Social deal, YAY!), furniture shopping, an errand to Best Buy and then to see a movie. BY OURSELVES.
I get so giddy when we do this. I love going out. I always have. I love to get more dressed up that I usually do and I especially love dinner and time alone with my husband.
Some may find it selfish that we try to get out together once a month for a date night. But I do not see it that way at all. We know it is good and healthy for our marriage and our relationship as Tim and Elaine.
We also sneak in a lunch here and there just the two of us because Tim works close to home and it’s so nice again to just be together while the kids are at school, busy doing their kid thing. And we do our adult thing. And yes, sometimes that too. What? You know you would if you could. Or maybe you do and if you do, GOOD FOR YOU! 😉
Our life is so busy right now. Sometimes the day to day-ness just overwhelms both of us and we get frustrated even with each other. Date nights and lunches alone allow us to re-focus and remember why we got together over eighteen years ago. They help us to take a quiet moment to just look into one another’s eyes and hearts.
It may sound cheesy, but at dinner the other night we did not talk a ton. We held hands and breathed in the same air and took in the quiet and cut only our own food. 🙂 Of course we did talk some, but there is no pressure to do so and we understand that basking in the stillness of a dinner alone is a good break for both of us.
The cool thing about dating this guy is that I already know him pretty dang well and I know what to expect. I KNOW he’s going to call or text the next day (said text or phone call will probably be about something I need to get at the grocery store, but still…) And I KNOW that he loves me – there is certainly no question there. And the quiet between us is not awkward, just known. And the excitement over the next big thing in our lives or the next family vacation, which we can talk about without the kids interrupting is just too good to pass up.
Also, I still get a little flip flop in my tummy when he holds my hand and touches the small of my back as he walks next to me.
He’s my lobster (if you do not get this reference you may be too young to read this blog, also, go HERE.)
And our dating life is going swimmingly, even after so many years…
(see what I did there?) 😉
So the moral of this story is that dates are good, even if you sneak out of for lunch or a trip to Barnes & Noble. Take time together. It is SO important.
This post inspired by my friend Kerstin...