The Miss Elaine-ous Life

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Imperfect

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On the outset my life looks perfect. Right?

A wonderful husband who loves and respects me. Three beautiful children, in some people’s ideal order, two boys and a girl.

We are surrounded by “stuff,” have a nice home, plenty of food to eat and probably too many clothes to wear.

I can take decent pictures and write nice words and post them here and you can see my “perfect” little family.

But what you don’t see is what I choose not to share here.

We are not perfect. I am not perfect.

Lately these imperfections are being analyzed and looked at through a loupe. They are more evident than they have ever been, even to the untrained eye.

There are things I do not share here because I feel they are too personal for this forum. I’ve made a conscious decision not to delve into certain topics in my life HERE because even though it’s part of my life, I don’t necessarily want to make it part of yours.

Some things lay heavy on my mind and heart right now. Physical things, mental things, emotional things. And today I feel the need to mention it.

And life, well sometimes… it’s just HARD.

I know it doesn’t look like that for me. I know it looks like I have it easy and compared to many in this world I do. I know that.

But right now, in these times of my life it’s not that easy for ME. Where I am. Who I am.

So, just know that I try my best to be the Elaine that you see here, almost daily. The one I show you. But today and maybe even for a while, I’m a little different, a little “off” as they say. And I’m certainly not “perfect”, especially not right now.



elaine

Comments

  1. Hugs. I’ve learned that no one is perfect, and no one really has it easy, even if it looks like they do. Hope things settle down for you soon.

  2. If we were all perfect, how utterly boring the world would be and what in the world would we blog about?

    I completely understand your desire to keep some things private. Hang in there and know that I got your back if you need it, girl. I just wish I was geographically much closer to do it in person.

  3. But you know what? I love you and all your little imperfections. I’ve struggled with the same kinds of things too lately and that’s okay. We are human after all. Hang in there, girl.

  4. I am the exact same way, Elaine. So much I don’t post about and include on my blog b/c they are simply too personal. I hope everything is okay and I’m thinking of you. I have been there too and totally understand why it is hard . . . big hugs to you!!!

  5. It’ll be okay. Hey, the toddler is using the potty, right? That’s got to mean the universe is in order! 🙂 And we love you. That’s important too!

  6. Nobody is perfect, an I am certain that no one thinks your life is. Thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers. xoxo

  8. I’ve learned not to diminish the cross I’ve been given to bear in light of the crosses others must bear. Our sufferings and trials are ours and regardless of big or small they may seem to others, they are just that–ours. Praying for peace for you today.

  11. I could’ve easily written this post except mine would be 2 kids instead of 3. 😉

    I don’t know what you’re going through but know you’re not alone and you have friends that are here for you (me included!). There are things I choose not to share on my blog and it makes it tough to know what to say when we’re not wanting to be so totally open to those that visit us and read.

    Sending hugs to you.

  12. Elaine, I love you for this post and I ache for you. I’ve got plenty of “private” stuff that I don’t share too, and plenty of imperfections. I actually have a similar post sitting in drafts right now. We all have our own private struggles. ((HUGS)) Hope you find your peace.

  13. There must be something in the air, because I have been feeling much the same way. And I too, don’t like to share every stress in my life. *sigh*

    Sending lots of hugs, good thoughts, and prayers your way. 🙂

  15. I’m actually pretty cool with seeing the Elaine with all her crap. That’s how I blog, and it kinda feels refreshing to speak what’s really going on.

    With that said, I completely support your decision to post whatever you feel appropriate. Everyone’s barriers are set at different points…

  17. I like you just the way you are.

    I hope that things get better soon…if you ever need anything, just let me know.

    ((Hugs))

  18. I have had to make the same decision. There are some things that I don’t share on my blog, and that is okay.
    Know that we are ALL imperfect and we are all trying our hardest.
    Love you sweetie.

  19. I know the feeling well. After a series of really hard family losses this fall, I felt like I was falling apart and just not myself. No motivation always down on myself. But, we have to go through these down times to be able to appreciate the good ones all that much more! Because you will turn the corner and life will be good again 😉

    http://www.theiheartblog.com

  21. Hey girl,
    *hug*
    Don’t let appearances be a burden to you.

    Work what you share here as an outlet. What I mean by that is not to hang out all your laundry or breech confidences, but use us as a support system.

    Oh, and that whole perfect thing is totally overrated. I mean really, who needs it?

    Perfect is so BORING.

    *another hug*
    Holly

  23. I will be thinking about you. And, I hope you don’t feel obligated to share it all here. We all know and understand going through things and feeling different.

    Embrace those imperfections! We’ve all got them:)

  24. Hon, no one is perfect, least of all me. You definitely appear perfect, but you should never feel you HAVE to be that way on your blog. We won’t disappear if we see the real you or if you having an “off day.” We love you just the way you are—perfect or not so!

  25. Don’t we all wish that there was nothing “not to share here.” Thought of you this weekend- Mike and I went to Marriage Encounter. Very cool- nice pick me up for marriage. I recommend it for everyone- it is done is 12 demoninations and of course, started as Roman Catholic. My marriage feels better… which for me is one of those things that sometimes I have to make the conscious decision “not to share.” This big belly of mine is thinking of you and in September I’ll be a mom of 3 too- wow! JenFlemB.

  26. Oh Elaine…sending you a huge hug right now..ready..here it comes! (((ELAINE)))

    I feel the same way about letting parts of my life out there for the whole world to know, its just not gonna happen. But I have grown closer to a handful of women thru my blog that I know are friends and will be there when I need support, especially not knowing all the lurid details. And those are the ones who I think who have their own crap to deal with but are willing to help me get thru some of mine if I ask.

    I’m just an email away if you ever need to vent…I’ll still love ya!